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Your Story: You are not actively creating the life you want every day. Instead, you keep doing the things you “are supposed” to do in a routine that is nothing like your true dream or desire. You are living in “automatic” –doing your duty and taking care of others, and you often feel like a zombie or trapped in a roller coaster.
The Fairy Tale Curse: Hello, Cinderella, did the evil step-mother holds you captive doing her laundry? Shake those ashes. You were not created to be an extra in your own life. Become the star you were meant to be… now!
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Your Story: You’ve caught yourself sabotaging your wellbeing, dreams and happiness often, even though you “know better.” You waste time, give attention to people (ejem, often men) that do not value you or sabotage your value, and engage in activities that feel good at the moment but in hindsight were a waste of time, energy and money.
The Fairy Tale Curse: Oh, poor princess, are you still kissing frogs? Whether the frogs are men, people-to-fix or causes, this is what invariable happens. You kiss the frog and your magic turns it temporarily into prince. But when your magic fades, they go back to their original nature, which is FROGS! Kiss yourself awake!
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Your Story: There’s a war inside you between what you desire for yourself and what others “need” from you. And what others expect of you always wins! You deprive yourself of the things that most bring you joy and deep fulfillment and lead a life to “do your duty” or please others.
The Fairy Tale Curse: Cinderella again! Now you know which is the first fairy tale you need to examine. As long as you keep believing that love demands you to cut pieces of yourself, you will play the victim and feel that you steal every minute of your life from others…only to find when it’s too late that you stole it from yourself.
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Your Story:You struggle to believe that your dreams can come true. Yes, you know the success you dream was possible for others. But you can’t really believe you can accomplish this. It somehow does not feel real, not for you.
The Fairy Tale Curse: Sleeping Beauty was dreaming that she was a princess in a great kingdom. ‘Oh, if I could be that beautiful, that great, that much admired!’ Sleeping Beauty lamented, thinking that it was only a dream, for such was the trance she had been cursed with: to believe that a boring, ordinary reality alienated from her soul was the only possible life, whereas her gorgeous, magical true self seemed like a far away dream. Wake up! You are longing for yourself, for what the curse stole from you. Summon your Sacred Masculine (Prince) to take action to make your dreams come true in this world, here and now.
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Your Story:You feel trapped in unfulfilling relationships. Could it be that you are the target of envy? Poisonous tongues? Villains? Where’s your Prince Charming? You feel alone and abandoned. In fact, you feel so strange that you hide your uniqueness for fear of rejection. It always seems that if you are all you can be, if you shine in your true beauty, others attack you or feel attacked by you. This is too scary, so you keep playing small.
The Fairy Tale Curse: Snow White, you need to start seeing the truth. As long as you hide your power to please others, you will find yourself in the hands of Evil Queen Witches.
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Your Story:You feel guilty or selfish when you give yourself what you want. You haven’t taken a vacation in ages. You feel that a dress is too expensive, but then you spend more on your grandchild. You feel that it’s extravagant to pay a hefty sum to a mentor or guide to help you live your dream. But then you give the same sum to your daughter for a scholarship. Why is it too much for you and never enough for others?
The Fairy Tale Curse: Cinderella, you show up again! Why are you soooo a woman’s archetype? Because we are taught to be “selfless” in order to be good. Dump the duster! Give yourself permission to be happy.
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Your Story:You are capable and smart, so why are you playing small, staying invisible or not fully assuming your authority or leadership?
The Fairy Tale Curse: Hi, Ugly Duckling. Go look at yourself in the mirror. It’s very difficult to squeeze your majesty and greatness into a box just to please others.
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Your Story:You see other, less talented people moving ahead in your field, but you can’t seem to take off and make a mark for yourself. Though you have great value to offer, you are the best kept secret in your field.
The Fairy Tale Curse: Rapunzel, Rapunzel, singing your beautiful song ONLY for the witch, trapped in a tower of invisibility? Summon the prince, but make sure to communicate with him, so he knows not to trust the witch. In this case, your right hand (Prince, Sacred Masculine, Logical Mind) must know what the left hand is hiding (fear, wounds, limits) so it doesn’t fall in the traps.
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Your Story:Something holds you back when it’s time to leap. You are so afraid of being wrong, being rejected, being judged or being bad.
The Fairy Tale Curse: Oh, Snow White, that apple lodged in your throat does not allow you to speak from your place of power. It’s time to spit it out.
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Your Story:You keep trying harder and going in circles, but do not progress. Are you cursed?
The Fairy Tale Curse: Rapunzel, examine the setpoint, the periphery of the Enchanted Tower in your life. You’ll find the curse that holds you in your smallness.
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Your Story:You secretly feel that nothing you do is enough. This diminishes your self confidence and pushes you to overwork and undercharge.
The Fairy Tale Curse: Ugly Duckling, you need to stop trying to please the ordinary Ugly Ducklings by bending out of shape when you can easily please the Majestic Swans just by being yourself!
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Your Story:You look around in your field and you see so many women like yourself doing the hard work day in and day out in the communities. You turn on the TV and there they are, the stars on your field… mostly men, shining on stage. Why aren’t you up there, shining with them? You find excuses, diminish their accomplishments or accuse them of betraying some holy tenant of selflessness… all excuses to keep playing small.
The Fairy Tale Curse: Sleeping Beauty, wake up! The reason you are not up there on stage is that you are doing ineffective actions in the world. You feel bad, guilty and selfish if you shine, so you go to sleep while your Sacred Masculine works for others. Take back your power! Work for yourself and you will see how much more good you can do in the world when you begin with yourself.
